Let's Talk Saturdays---Worth the Wait

Original caption: "10 months in and he's still the only one tearing up these cheeks"

Screenshot caption: "@msnaturallymary says I can't it's been almost 1 year and we are still waiting on our first kiss...❤️This must be true love😊"

This Saturday is not going to be as....secular as my usually Saturday posts, but I did get the inspiration from social media as you can see. When I first saw this post I thought to myself how beautiful this actually  is. Stuff like this doesn't happen in these days and times. Most people don't wait that long to kiss someone. This woman has been waiting almost a year. That's amazing. I think people cold learn a lot from examples like that her. 

In today's times, people are not willing to wait. In their defense, relationships are not what they used to be. Way back when, people were getting married at 16 and 17 years old so the idea of kissing and having sex that young was nota big deal. It was normal. But now, people aren't getting married that young. For one thing, is illegal to some extent and 2, people don't respect the sanctity of marriage anymore. People realized it's not illegal to wait to do things that married folks do when you're not married. This isn't like the Bible days where women were being stoned in the streets for having premarital sex. When people realized that wasn't going to happen. There was no fear of what could happen. 

Growing up in the south, sex education consisted of a long lecture about abstinence. We didn't really learn how to protect ourselves. It was more so staying if you had sex you would go to hell, get pregnant, get a STD, or your genitals were going to fall off. It was all really extreme. There was a lot that they didn't discuss that would actually be more practical. 

Before I get into this I want y'all to know I'm not bashing people who had premarital sex. I'm one of those people. I lost my virginity very young. Now there are other stipulations that come into play when I decide whether or not I want to be with someone. Had I not lost my virginity and continued to have premarital sex with other people, I would not be concerned whether it was good sex or not because I wouldn't have anything to compare it to. I would have no way of determining the caliber. Besides that, sex has a lot of mental components. You can't bond with someone in a sexual experience if you're thinking "Tyrone did it this way" and "Charlie was better at this." It's just not going to work. 

Even if you had sex with someone and the relationship just didn't work, there are still things that you carry with you from that person. It's  called a soul tie. It doesn't matter if the sex was A1. Sometimes things just don't work out for other reasons. The Bible says that when people have sex the 2 become 1 (1 Corinthians 6:16). So that means you may find yourself picking up habits and mannerisms of that person. That's not always a good thing. You don't know what kind of things that person may do or think outside of  your presence. For example, when I was about 19 I was dating this guy and having sex with him frequently. After a while, I found myself with an oppressed and suicidal mindset, and for the life of me I couldn't figure out where it came from. That was very unlike me. Turns out the guy I was dating was very much so suicidal. Literally the moment I stopped dealing with him, it stopped. That's the danger of sleeping with more than one person at a time. You're sleeping with all these people and picking up their habits and next thing you know you feel like a completely different person and you don't even recognize yourself. 

What does this have to do with the IG post? She is protecting herself from the potential negative impacts. Kissing leads to sex. I don't care what anybody says. Kissing someone will almost always awaken sexual feelings. So her decision to not kiss him is to stop herself from being tempted. Now if he decides, he doesn't want to wait. He can go. Anybody who is not willing to accept your values and what is important to you can go. It doesn't even have to be about sex. It could be anything, school, family, religion. He decided she was worth the wait. 


Baby I will wait for you
If you think I'm fine it just ain't true
I really need you in my life
No matter what I have to do I'll wait for you
--Elliott Yamin