365 Questions--February 9

Take the Love Language test. Is it true?

Your Scores

10	Quality Time
7	Acts of Service
6	Physical Touch
5	Words of Affirmation
2	Receiving Gifts

For the most part, this is true. I definitely appreciate quality time the most, and I could care less about gifts. The other 3 are kind of equal to me. Giving me your time is just so important to me. I guess it's because I'm such a busy person. I work 1 job full time and the other part time, I go to school, I'm involved in church, I take care of my grandma, and I make sure my posts are done for the blog. That's without all the outside relationships and friendships. Even though it's a lot on my plate, I still make time for what I want to make time for. I appreciate when that is reciprocated. That says a lot about how you feel about me. It is kind of selfish in a way, but at the same time I do that for other people so I expect it in return. I'm not a needy woman at all, but when I want attention I want attention. 

To me, it says a lot. It says "Yes, I have a million and one things I could be or should be doing but I want to spend my time with you." It doesn't even necessarily have to mean spending time. It could mean just checking on me throughout the day. Honestly, when I want to spend time with my significant other, I just want to be in their presence. We can binge watch a show or watch a movie. It doesn't have to be anything major. I'm pretty simple. I don't need elaborate dates all the time. I'm content with with just going to Waffle House some days. 

Let it be clear, the other languages are important, but quality time is the most important to me. I guess because I feel like the other things, besides gifts, are obligatory. I should't have to beg you to help me do something. If you are my significant other, then you should want to help me. You are supposed to be my helpmate. I could care less about words of affirmation and gifts. I guess because I've been in a lot of relationships. I feel like words and gifts are fluff. You can tell me you love me and that you'll give me the sun, moon, and stars until you're blue in the face, but doesn't mean that you mean it. I've been in situations before where men have told me all of these things, and I was just like 😒😒 "you say these things, but you're clearly cheating on me. I don't care that you're buying me things because you're cheating on me. You're not even trying to spend time with me so miss me with all that." 

Women thrive on emotions, men refuse to acknowledge
So when we arguing nobody wins
Words get in the way time and again
Sticks and stones break your bones words break your heart
Whether you in touch with that part or not say word
--Talib Kweli

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